Turning the Ride Home into a Winning Moment: Positive Post-Game Routines for Parents and Players

The final buzzer might end the game, but the learning and growth continue long after the players leave the ice. For young hockey players, the ride home or the conversation after a game can be a critical moment. It can either boost their confidence or weigh them down, depending on how it’s handled. At SDR Academy, we believe that creating a positive post-game routine is essential for long-term development, both on and off the ice.

Why Post-Game Conversations Matter

The way parents approach the post-game conversation can shape a player’s mindset, affect their confidence, and influence how they view the sport over time. A supportive and constructive approach can:

• Build resilience

• Enhance self-awareness

• Foster a love for the game

• Strengthen the parent-player relationship

Remember, hockey is more than just the goals and wins—it’s about growth, learning, and having fun.

5 Simple Strategies for a Positive Post-Game Routine

1. Focus on Connection First

After a game, emotions can be high. Whether it’s the thrill of a win or the disappointment of a tough loss, start with warmth and empathy. Before diving into analysis, connect with your athlete as a parent first.

💬 Try this: “I loved watching you out there today!” or “How did you feel about the game?” These simple openers set a positive tone and let your player know you’re proud of their effort, not just their stats.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Encourage reflection by letting your athlete lead the conversation. This approach helps them process their performance and build self-awareness without feeling judged.

❓ Examples:

• “What was your favourite play you made today?”

• “What’s one thing you want to work on for the next game?”

• “What did you learn from today’s matchup?”

Open-ended questions keep the focus on growth and learning, rather than just results.

3. Balance Praise with Growth Points

It’s important to celebrate effort and progress, but also to highlight areas for improvement in a constructive way. This balanced approach keeps players motivated and focused on long-term development.

👏 Examples:

• Positive reinforcement: “You worked so hard in the corners today. That effort stood out!”

• Growth mindset: “What could you try next time to break through their defence?”

By mixing praise with gentle, forward-looking feedback, you reinforce the idea that hockey is about constant improvement.

4. Be Mindful of Their Mood

Every game has its emotional highs and lows. If your child seems upset, give them space before jumping into a critique. Sometimes, the best support you can offer is simply being there.

🗣️ Say this after a tough loss: “I’m proud of you for giving it your all. Let’s talk more when you’re ready.”

This approach shows empathy and respect for their feelings, building trust over time.

5. Keep It Short and Sweet

Long post-game breakdowns can be overwhelming, especially after a tough game. Focus on one or two key takeaways rather than dissecting every play.

🚫 Humour Tip: Save the game tape for the NHL analysts—you’re here to support, not micromanage!

Interactive Exercise: The "Rose, Thorn, Bud" Reflection

After the next game, try this quick, three-part reflection:

🌹 Rose: What went well in the game?

🌵 Thorn: What was challenging?

🌱 Bud: What’s one area for growth next time?

This exercise helps players balance the highs and lows of their performance, encouraging a growth mindset.

At SDR Academy, we’re here to support not just the physical development of our players

but also their mental and emotional growth. By creating a positive post-game routine, you can help your athlete build confidence, resilience, and a lifelong love for the game.